Anonymous asked: do you consider WM to be the one? can you see yourself with him for the rest of your life?
Hello!
Excellent question, really. I’ve always been one to look ahead in my relationships. So even guys I’ve liked I’ve considered if they were “The One”. I can’t say any of them were. And I can’t say WM is either. We’ve been dating 4 months, it’s too early to think of long term commitment and it’s too early to figure out if he’s “The One”. Could he make me happy? Sure. Can I see us together? Yes. Is he “The One”? I doubt it. It would be very fairy-tale like for me to marry my first boyfriend. It would be wonderful and it would make me incredibly happy but at 18 how do we know what we want? How do I know what I want in a husband? I’m learning and he’s learning.
I was talking to my friend this morning. She recently broke up with my other good friend. It was mutual and they thought it was going to be a forever kind of love. It was his first relationship but not her’s. She brought up a good point. Experiencing other things and other people and figuring out what you want can be beneficial. As you age and grow, you change. And maybe they are no longer part of that change. Which is completely valid.
I’ve thought about him being “The One”. But honestly? I don’t think he’s it. He’s my right now, he’s my present and maybe my future.
Dating is all about what you want right now. It can lead to the future, it can lead to something more but it doesn’t always have to. It’s your present. Cherish right now and what you have. The future will be there. Don’t rush, have fun.
I hope that answered your question!
—jessica and zoe
