In all my lifetime, I never thought I would find that one best friend who would help me through anything. I thought that I would have to spend my entire life moving through it being my own best friend.
Little did I know that my wish would be granted this year and I would be thrust into the arms of this wonderful girl. You all know her as 1DG. She has been there for the past year more than anyone in my entire life has been.
She calls me out on my bullshit and she gives great advice and in turn I do the same.
Last night we hung out at this place that I like to affectionately call The End of The World. It’s got this absolutely beautiful view and it’s so quiet and secluded. It’s a really great thinking spot on a hot summer’s day. We took some coolers with us and just talked for ages. We laughed and sighed and smiled and laughed some more (I’m forever laughing with this lady. She literally brightens up my day).
Not only is she one of my absolute best friends, but she’s also my co-president and something close to my older sister. She’s so wise and so put together. I admire her every move and I try to act in a similar fashion. She is an inspiration and I’ve never in my life been so grateful to be friends with her.
Funny story: Yesterday, as we were sitting on the cliff and staring out into the air, we saw this group of boys light some fireworks. The first one they threw and it made that noise when something drops in cartoons as it fell. The second one the threw it short and despite the fact that it hit the ground, it still made that sound until the fire fizzled out. We laughed really hard at that. The third one though is probably the gem. The guy lit the firework, held the damn thing until it basically burned him and then threw it right in front of him. We laughed incredibly hard at that one.
Long story short, I have the coolest lady in the universe as one of my really good friends and I couldn’t be more grateful.
Anonymous asked: i like to drink a lot. i know it will become serious one day but i am young right now and i cant help it. what todo?
Ahh drinking. My favorite topic of my age group.
First off, congratulations and bravo on realizing that you’re headed down a path that may result in you sitting in detox. No one wants that, especially you.
Just because you’re young doesn’t mean that you can’t develop a drinking problem now. How do you think some of those teens that end up in rehab get there? It’s not because they drink once a year.
Don’t go cold turkey until it’s an absolute necessity. Try cutting down and go down to one or two glasses a day. Don’t go to places that encourage you to drink excessively. This means bars, pubs, parties.
Also, you can TOO help it. Is someone force feeding you the alcohol? Did someone put it into an IV and stick in your arm? Not really. It’s your conscious choice to drink that excessive amount of alcohol.
Tell everyone you know and trust that you’re trying to cut down on drinking and build a support group. It’s okay to say “look, I’m starting to develop a drinking problem and I would really appreciate it if you would support me in my decision. If you see me reaching for a drink, try and help me out by not provoking or enticing me with it. Just understand that this is a change in my life that I need to follow through with because I’m headed somewhere I don’t want to be headed”.
Say no. It’s as simple as that. If someone asks if you want a drink, say sure but only if its a non-alcoholic beverage. Sometimes peer pressure happens and you get tired of it so you cave. I’ve done it a couple times. The consequences of what happens is never pleasant.
If you truly want this change, then you’ll be willing to put the effort in. Otherwise, you’ll end up with a drinking problem and if it gets bad enough possibly in rehab. And maybe not if you’re that intent on being an alcoholic.
People die from alcohol poisoning. Don’t be one of them.
—jessica and zoe
Anonymous asked: Ok I have two questions. My first question is what do you think about drinking. I just turned 18 and I like to go out and party with my friends every once in a while but my parents look at me like I'm some kind of wild child when I do it, but I'm not. I'm not doing it illegally or anything so it makes me mad when they make me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends. And my second question is why do you sign two people when you answer when this blog is written by one person?
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Drinking is…a subject that I don’t mind talking about but just keep in mind that I was probably raised differently and have my own opinions on it. While I don’t see drinking as being terrible, I myself don’t engage in it. Truthfully, the taste of alcohol is discussing and I’m a bit of a control freak. Letting my guard down is just something I’m not willing to part with. Now, as for your situation it really depends on how much you drink at these parties (ie. enough that you don’t remember what happened or just enough to give you a fuzzy warm feeling), who is attending these parties (as in, boys who your parents know and can probably trust or some random frat party you and your friends decided to hit up) whether it’s affecting your school work (don’t be too hard on them for this aspect, after all they are only looking out for you) and lastly what you consider every once in a while. What you consider every once in a while may be too much for them.
Drinking is not necessarily a good thing or a bad thing. It depends how it’s used, why it’s used and how much is used. Personally in my experience, when I turned 18 I never went out to a bar. Ever. The hardest drink I’ve consumed has been a Bacardi rum cooler and that’s okay with me. I see drinking as something that you do socially. Have a beer or two here and there and just casually sip throughout the night. Others may have their opinions about that and call you “no fun” or “party pooper” or “prude” but since I didn’t like headaches and throwing up, I stayed and still stay far away from drinking. I don’t mind it if other people drink, that’s their choice. It’s fun to watch them do silly things but make sure someone else is sober with you, it’s not fun hanging around a bunch of drunk people. They tend to become unpredictable. Just remember that you can still have fun sober. You did for the last 18 you can for the next 50.
I tend to have the same problem with my parents too. My mom especially. When she gets wind that I had ONE cooler and over the period of 6-8 hours she always feels the need to tell me that if I ever puke, I have to clean it up. Valid point, but she knows that I don’t drink an excessive amount if at all. Just try and ease them into the fact that you are going to drink every now and then. Ask for champagne or wine at parties or grab a cooler and drink responsibly in front of them. It’ll ease their fears and also show them that they can trust out of the house as much as they can IN the house. Or if that seems like a semi-bad idea (and now that I think about, they might think you’re an alcoholic) just sit them down and let them know that you understand your fears, but you are a responsible adult and this is just one thing that you can be responsible about as a new adult.
As for your second question, Zoe occasionally pops onto the blog every now and then to offer up her opinion but I mostly do the writing. She’s an awfully busy woman and I like to include her in the blog, it is OUR blog after all. Not just mine. She has lots of advice to give and a different perspective to offer as well. I will admit that I frequent it more often, but that’s because I’m a little bit of a maniac when it comes to just letting questions pile up in the messages box. I feel the need to answer it right away when I see it.
I hope that answered your questions :) have a great evening and a wonderful day tomorrow! Thanks for reading :)
—jessica and zoe