I AM SO SORRY.
I am so so so sorry that I haven’t updated in 18 gazillion years but I am finally finding the time to sit down and write a post..or 4. I’ve had so many things going on in the last 2 weeks that I can’t even wrap my head around it. I’m still having difficulties with the facts.
First of all, online dating is tough. I’ve been there and done that and it’s tough. Especially if you’re as cautious as I am with everything (watching Criminal Minds will do that to you.). If you’re thinking about online dating, please give me a shout so I can share my tips and tricks.
Secondly, I guess you don’t have to find that amazing guy over the internet. Sometimes, he’s right underneath your nose and you don’t even know that he is. Trust me, I would know.
Thirdly, take as many risks as you can. If you have nothing to lose, take the plunge and dive right in. It might pay off or you could just continue living your life but until you take that risk, you’ll never know what could have been and I seriously dislike living in the “what if” part of my brain.
Fourthly, it is finally summer outside and I can’t even begin to express how happy I am with the sunshine. I even broke out the sunnies today!
Ready for the next 5 posts? Cause here we go.
—jessica
Anonymous asked: I meet this girl when I was 12/13 (Im a girl.) We were best friend until I left her and we didn't speak for two years until I started speaking to her again. When I was 15/16 we fell in love. However we were still in love when she got into a relationship with another girl (they've been together for 7 months now.) I really miss her and love her but I'm not sure what to do? It hurts to see her with someone else and try be her best friend at the same time. Do i leave or stay? Idk what would you do?
Here’s my answer and Zoe’s might be completely different but I think that it really depends on what you value the most. If you can’t live without her in your life, then I suggest you find some way to push your feelings aside or live with those feelings and be her best friend, always there, always supportive. I’m not saying that this is a bad thing, but you need to realize what you’re getting into. If you choose to stay and remain her best friend, you accept the difficulties and struggles that it comes with. You’ve accepted that no matter what happens, you will ALWAYS be her best friend first. An admirable trait, to say the least.
If you leave, you might crush her but who do you love more, yourself or her? Which will help you in the end? She is currently in a relationship. You’re pining after her. If you still want to be best friends, just say that you need some time away from her. To figure things out so that you can be a better best friend to her, so that you can get over her if you so choose.
Just remember “I love you, but I love me more”. Who do you love more? This is really what it comes down to.
I hope I’ve help you a little. If you still need help, feel free to message us and hopefully Zoe and I can offer more assistance!
—jessica and zoe
Anonymous asked: I have a question, So I really like this girl we've been friends for a year now, and for about 3 months I've started to really like her, and she likes me But She's always talking about her ex, and when we were chilling the other night with our friends, she went to her exs house to go talk to her and all, And then today she just kept talking about her and went over to her house again to see how she was. and there always talking. I have no clue what to do. Because i feel like the second choice
Dearest,
First, I can totally understand feeling like you are second choice. It kinda blows hey? Personally if it was me I would sit down and ask her outright what’s going on with her and her ex. It’s the only way you will know 100% what’s happening and then you can make your choice of telling her the feelings you have or decide to move on. I think that going after want you want is the only way to get it. So go for it! Ask her and find out what the deal is. Hopefully she is just finding the closure she needs and then you two can start your own relationship.
- Z & J
HAPPY BIRTHDAY :)
Good morning lovely followers! Today is Oct 13th and do you know what that means? It’s the 1 year birthday of our blog! Yup, Zoe and I started this blog exactly one year ago and we are so, so, so proud of it!
I’d like to take the time to thank all of you readers for following our blog! It means the world to us and without this blog would never have existed. So thank you for posting your opinions and asking your questions :) we are so proud to answer them.
So THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! We really appreciate all the love we’ve gotten! You guys are some of the most interesting parts of our day. So in honor of that, and to get to know US better why not ask some questions?
In our inbox hashtag your message with #glitter and your question (you can address it to one or both of us) and we will answer your questions about ourselves all through the month of October! So please, start typing! Make the questions deep, silly, funny or just plain simple! We’d love to hear from you!
Have a great weekend everybody and thank you so much for sticking through it with us!
—jessica and zoe
Anonymous asked: Hi, I'm currently in a relationship with a girl. & We've been dating for quite some time now. & I'm aware of the fact that she has an STD. & I think it's time we take our relationship to the next level. I just don't know how to cautiously go about this since i've never had safe sex with a woman. Any advice?
Hello, hello!
Since you know for a fact that she has and STI, I would suggest finding out exactly what her infection entails. The last thing you want to do is go head first (literally) into a dark abyss completely blind-folded. I’m saying this because human error is always plausible. So you may forget a condom one day or it slips off and you’re exposed. If you get the STI you’ll want to know exactly what you’re dealing with and whether or not you have a cure.
My best advice? Since you know she has an STI, I wouldn’t risk having sex with her. However, since you seem to be pretty determined. If you’re a male (seeing as this post is anonymous) USE A CONDOM. Never, ever go without it and if you do, make sure you use a female condom if you don’t use a male one. If you’re going down on her, PLEASE USE A DENTAL DAM. STIs don’t only affect the nether regions, but they also affect your mouth, nose and possibly eyes. Herpes can be in your mouth, you can get chlamydia in your eyes so don’t rule it out. Make sure your partner takes her medication or whatever treatment she’s on regularly and consistently.
Just safe sex rules in general? CONDOM, CONDOM, CONDOM. Dental dam if you’re going down on her. Make sure she’s on the pill to avoid pregnancy. Some STIs can be transferred to the baby during childbirth and that becomes awful. If she IS on the pill, make sure that any medication she may be on doesn’t counter act the effects of the pill. Do your research!
I hope this helps, good luck!
—jessica and zoe
Anonymous asked: How do I know if a girl is flirting with me or just being nice? Like, there's this girl I went to highschool with; we don't hang out but whenever we run into each other by coincidence she's getting really excited about it, smiling at me, hugging me or touching my hair; she never texts me first but when I text her (which I do occasionally) she's also excited, keeping the conversation going, teasing me a little... I like her but I don't even know if she's a lesbian. What should I do?
Bah. The thing with girls is that they can totally send mixed signals. She might just genuinely be excited to talk to you because she hasn’t seen you in a while or because you haven’t hung out in a while. It’s hard to tell when you don’t know they’re sexual orientation.
If we say she’s straight, then she could just be super excited to hear from such a great friend or someone she really likes hanging out with.
If we say she’s a lesbian, then I would probably say that she’s interested in you.
I’ll let Zoe handle the rest, since I literally have no clue as to what you should do :/
Z? Thoughts, cause I’m hopeless right now.
—jessica
Anonymous asked: So Ive been talking to this girl and we want to see each other so she asked me to go to a concert with her, but I can't go. But we're talking about going to a greek festival together, like a first date. I'm kind of hesitant because I'm afraid of not being good enough, Ive never dated a girl before and she has. But I don't want to back out because of that. I just want things to go well. Any tips or advice on first dates? Outfit, necessities for the date? If it helps we're both in high school.
Hello!
So sorry for the late reply, we’ve been pretty busy lately with jobs and just getting ready for school. There have been a couple catastrophes within our lives at the moment.
I know that this won’t seem genuine coming from me, and you probably will HATE me if I give you advice, but Z is super busy right now and I’m just going to have to answer your questions. I know, I know. I’m not qualified, but I will try my absolute best despite being straighter than an arrow (I mean, getting ready for a first date can’t be much different with a girl than it is with a girl. Is it?)
First of all, I’m guessing the date happened already (and for that, so so so sorry) but really, just chill. It’s okay to be nervous (not okay to puke on her) but if you feel butterflies? Perfectly fine.
Next, wear something casual and lots of layers if you’re going to a festival. I’d go shorts and a loose flowing top with a cute hat and some really comfy shoes. Toms work well!
Necessities for a date? Hand sanitizer, gum, mints, lip gloss/balm, tissue, money, your ID and your phone. BOOM. Done.
I hope you had a wonderful date and I’m so sorry for this late reply. Enjoy your summer.
For the rest of you, if you REALLY want a prompt answer you can kik me at jessibear3 and I’ll try and answer you as promptly as possible.
Thank you guys for being so understanding!
—jessica and zoe
Anonymous asked: Okay, I'm a 15 year old girl and I'm 100 percent sure that I'm in love with my boyfriend. The only problem is that he's 19. I want to know if you think it's acceptable for us to be in this relationship. Also, there is no sex involved and no pressuring going on about it. We both think we should wait until I'm of legal age to do it. Thank you for listening.
This is a tricky one. Not so much because I don’t approve or think you aren’t in love, its just that when one personal is legal and the other isn’t it can cause a lot of problems. You need to find out what your states/provinces laws are when it comes to underage dating. It is probably inevitable that you are going to have sex, waiting for three years doesn’t seem horribly realistic. That’s not a bad thing it’s just risky. If for some reason your parents found out they could press charges without letting you have your say. The danger in this situation is more for him, but if he is okay with taking that risk and you’ll do everything you can to protect him, then go for it. You really should refrain from sex though. As I said before, statutory rape is not acceptable.
-Z
Hey Everyone!
I swear I am getting around to your questions! I know it’s taking a while, but J is on holidays and I am working like a crazy and trying to end a relationship. I will answer them though. I love reading them and helping when I can. Keep sending them in!
Anonymous asked: I'm seeing this guy who is a lot older than me. About 10 years. Our connection is amazing and he said "If you don't mind the age difference, neither do I." What do you two think of the age difference? When things got a bit heated, he was fine with us taking things slow and said whatever I want, he's fine with, Also, when we were hanging out with his room mates a girl came over. He called me when I left and made sure I wasn't uncomfortable or anything! Hes very considerate and understing.
I’m happy he seems to be so understanding dear! Don’t base your happiness and joy on what other people think. I personally don’t see an issue with age difference as long as both you of you are on the same wave length as far as expectations and what you want. It takes a lot of courage because you will both be ready for different things at different times. As long as everything is legal (statutory rape is not okay) then I say go for it.
-Z & J
